“I think freedom should mean freedom to choose our own path,” she says.“And marrying yourself isn’t surrendering to the wedding-industrial complex.Word got around and some 100 women showed up to tie the knot.Some came wearing wedding gowns; others carried flowers. “Imagine hearing 100 women stand in front of a mirror and speak the words that they have always longed to hear.”“I will never leave myself.”“I promise to ask for help when I’m suffering.”“I promise to look in the mirror every day and be grateful.” “I promise to give you the incredible life that you long for.” Now 27, Dominique is a self-marriage counselor and minister, offering services including consulting sessions and private ceremonies through her website, Self Marriage Ceremonies, which she runs from her home in northern California.
“I don’t want to squish myself into a box,” she says.After meeting as seniors at Kalamazoo College in Michigan, they married a few years later and moved to Europe. She plans to keep dating, and she appreciates the “ceremony and symbolism” of traditional marriage.But she and her husband grew apart in the years after college, she says, and divorced when she was 30. “There’s something about people coming together and saying, ‘We see you, we support you, we’re in it with you,’” she says.She generally hears from a couple people via the site a week, she says.In one of the most elaborate ceremonies she helped plan, a woman married herself on a beach in San Francisco, complete with a band, photographers, and a circle of family members.
“We’re set up as a culture to treat marriage as the most exciting thing you’ll ever do in your life,” she says.